Photo taken by Patrícia Canastreiro
We’ve all been there or done that. It’s not easy being on either side. Wether it’s your boyfriend, a friend or a family member your cheating. Cheating is one of the worst conditions of human nature, if you can call it that. Men have a primordial instinct that goes against monogamy and women have a sentimental way of being that leads to wanting to be with someone forever. Not every men or women are like this, the roles have been changing for the last decades. But for me, it still is the most despicable thing anyone can do. I’ve betrayed friends, never boyfriends and never my husband, and sometimes the line that defines what is cheating and what’s not is very blurry. Either way, if you’re feeling guilty, it’s because you’ve cheated. The feeling that someone ripped off your stomach, that your food is going up to your mouth, that you want to hit anything because someone did that to you. Then you start to doubt yourself, your capabilities, it gets confusing; was it my fault? Was I part of the problem? Was it me? I always said and felt that cheating is the obvious and easiest solution, a way that you can feed your ego, get approval, recognition. But if that’s the case, it’s pointless to be with someone. I remember that, with my ex-boyfriend, after four years of being together, I started to seek another guy’s attention and, when that happened, I realized something was wrong with my relationship. If one person isn’t enough, don’t be in one. You’re not giving the other person the respect he/she deserves. Think about before doing something and ruining your relationship(s) in the long run.