This post is not necessarily about healthy food choices or exercising. It’s about simple and small breakups you can do in your life that will definitely change how you feel. Some of them I’m already doing, others I should be doing. It’s not easy breaking the habits we already have. We have to be persistent and be willing to change them. We can’t achieve anything if we don’t want to and setting your mind to it, is half the path. I know you’re probably thinking easier said than done, but trust me when I say the first step is the hardest. After that you will wish you’d started earlier.
Technology and social media overuse. Scrolling down your Instagram feed, laying in bed and phone over your head. Has it ever fell on your face? Yes! It happens to the best of us. And that’s when you should realize that you have to stop and smell the flowers. Ban them from your sleeping area, from your morning and before-going-to-bed routine. It’s absolutely no good for you. That nine pm email can wait until tomorrow. The feed will still have the same things when you go there. Be in the moment, live it and enjoy it more often.
Uncontrolled spending in meals and drinks. This is something me and M have to deal on a regular basis. Sure it’s good to have a nice meal out, but try to have it every now and then to make it special and to save money. Try making lists and preparing your meals before hand, when you go to the grocery shop you buy just what you need and not think about it until the next week. Think about how much you can save if you don’t eat that dreary salad or drink that caramel macchiato but rather do it at home and put the money away for other things.
Toxic relationships. As the years move along, you become older, change your priorities, your mind and some people eventually grow apart. That’s just the way it goes. Relationships, of any kind, should always be a two way street. If you feel like some relationships are not beneficial, to both parties, as hard as it can be, end them. You don’t need to be unhappy nor does the other person. Know your limits, your value and your self-worth. Chances are, you are doing both of yourself’s a favor.
Trends and cheap clothes. You don’t have to follow every trend that comes your way. Not everything is going to fit or look good on you, so rather than jumping onto every fashion delight or cheap store, think about investing in good basics that will last for several seasons. Think about what you like to wear and follow some basic rules to become a better shopper. Every year, I take a good look at my closet and select the items I haven’t worn for the past 365 days. I normally give
it to a church or a charity so other people can give the clothes the use I’m not.
Loneliness. This one I’ve covered before (here and here). This noisy feeling can creep up on you when you least expect it, but it’s in your power to fight it back.
I have days when I feel like the loneliest person alive and others when I just don’t give enough room for it to startle me. You can find a workout buddy, join a gym, go to a bar or even a class. Most of the friends I met in New York was through a workshop I did last year, in October. The workshop was not very educational but
a friendship with one of the other attendees made it all worth it.