Wellbeing Week: What You Need to Let Go to Move On

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If we think hard, there are still things we refuse to let go. Whether it’s an old sweater with sentimental value. A phone number we haven’t used in 5 years. A friend on Facebook we never speak to. It’s hard to think about living a life without those – or any other things – that might be difficult to let go. But taking that step, is at everyone’s reach. We just have to really want to.

Think about things that might be holding you back. People, feelings, thoughts. Often we get stuck on them just because we’re used to, and they can become a burden. I remember breaking up with my ex-boyfriend and how hard it was. He was my first real boyfriend, we dated for 4 years – I was 16 when we first started seeing each other. By the time I was 20, my personality wasn’t the same, I did not want the same things, and neither did he. The last, almost 2 years, it didn’t even feel like we were in a relationship. We weren’t living in the same city and barely saw each other.

Breaking up with him was one of the hardest things I ever did.

It took me around 6 months to realize I didn’t want to be with him anymore. That we had nothing in common and he wasn’t going to change. No matter how hard we wanted. I remember like it was yesterday, and didn’t tell a soul I was breaking up with him. It felt like it was a decision I had to make on my own. And so the day came, I did it and never looked back. Most of my friends were speechless and said we would get back together. But once I set my mind on to something, I never look back.

After that, I realized, I only need a handful of reasons to let go and move on. 

#1 If I’m not happy

Why should I hold on to something that does not make me happy? If you balance it out and, more often than not, you’re unhappy, why keep at it? Don’t stay in a relationship out of comfort. Or abide to something you don’t agree with.

#2 If it’s pulling me down

Whether we’re talking about a person or an attitude. If something is pulling me down, I have to figure out what it is and stop it. If I’m having a lot of negative thoughts and attitudes, I have to find out why I’m doing it and try to reverse. More than ever, a 2017 is going to be a positive year.

#3 If it’s wrong

We tend to do a few bad things throughout our lives. Talk bad behind someone’s back, judge others, feel sorry, worry too much over small things. Those behaviors only pull us further down the negative spiral. Letting go of resentments, bad mouthing or judging can have a greater liberating effect than we think.

#4 If I’m overthinking it

The best decisions of my life were done on a whim. I know I wrote before that breaking up with my ex-boyfriend took about 6 months, but I don’t cut people off my life lightly. When it comes to work or life decisions, more often than not, your first instinct is the right one. Listen to your gut. What does it tell you? And when you’re doubting too much, say no.

#5 If saying yes is hard

And on the note of the previous point, if my first instinct is to say no, I probably should. A lot of times I say yes because I think too much about if it’s a good opportunity. If I shouldn’t waste it. But if I think it’s a no on the first thought, then it definitely is.