How to Boost Your Self Esteem

 I’ve always been pretty much a standard girl when it comes to my issues with, well, myself! Like any other kid, I struggled with my self esteem and the way I dealt with my confidence. I remember being 12 years old, on 7th grade and basically a tom-boy who covered her behind with a coat or shirt, wore sports bras, braces and glasses. While other girls were already a lot into boys, wearing tight jeans and getting their hair done, I was a late bloomer.

Our teenage years are meant for insecurities, self doubt and a high dose of self awareness. Anything and everything you do is held against you and, if you’re a bit different, you are almost punished for it. But I feel like I carried out this feeling way into my twenties, to college and when I moved away. I used to compare myself to others, feel under or overly dressed, not trust my instincts or stop myself from doing something, just because everyone else wasn’t doing it.

As you grow older, your priorities, views of life and attitude start to shift, granting you the opportunity to improve and look at things from a different perspective. I’ve come to figure a few self-improvement tips that helped me throughout the past few years and, hopefully, will help you too:

Good and bad.

Everyone has their good and bad aspects, even you. Figuring what they are, gives you an advantage into knowing what to do and when to stop. For instances, I know I’m good at helping people with whatever they need, so when I see a friend or family member in distress, I know when to offer help. I can also be annoyingly stubborn, which makes it hard for me to admit when I’m not right.

Balanced and healthy diet.

My weight tends to fluctuate a lot, so figuring out a balanced diet wasn’t easy for me. I used to be very compulsive and eat an entire pack of cookies or a lot in one setting. Big no-no right? M didn’t like a lot of the things I cooked, so I had to figure out ways to still do what I liked in a way that he would enjoy too. That made me think a lot about the eating mistakes I was doing and eventually find a balanced meal plan that soothes us both.

Overly critic.

We are truly our own worst enemy. We tend to criticize ourselves a lot and make us feel bad about things that we shouldn’t normally. It’s important to give yourself a break and find the things you actually like about yourself. For every negative aspect, try to tone it down with two positive ones. I can be very judgmental but, at the same time, a great supporter and listener.

Dress to impress.

More and more, a big part of our lives take place in our closet. Especially us girls, who emphasize the importance of what to wear every single day. While it’s important to care about what you wear, it’s also important to know what fits and suits you best. This way, you are more worried about what works rather than what doesn’t.

Surround yourself with good people.

There’s always going to be bad people in the world, who don’t support you the way they should or aren’t there for you the same way you are for them. People who make you feel insecure instead of making you feel like you are up to the task. Make sure you know who the people around you are and that their love and support is unconditional instead of being full of cons.

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